Trauma Recovery & Grief Support
IN ARVADA, CO
From the Weight of the Past to a Future Restored
Deep pain, whether from a traumatic event, a moral wound, or a significant loss, changes how you see the world. We provide a safe, compassionate space to process your story, regulate your nervous system, and help you find meaning and peace on the other side of pain.

Trauma Recovery:
When the Past Won’t Stay in the Past
Trauma is not just about “what happened to you”—it’s about how your body and mind survived it. You may feel safe intellectually, yet your body remains on high alert, reacting to the present as if the danger is still here.
We help you move out of survival mode. Using evidence-based therapies, we guide you to process painful memories, release stored tension, and reclaim your sense of safety in your own skin.
Survival Mode: The Hidden Impact of Trauma
One of the most exhausting parts of trauma is living in a state of constant “Survival Mode.” You may:
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Constantly scan your environment for danger, even in safe places.
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“Numb out” or dissociate to escape overwhelming emotions.
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React with sudden anger or tears that feel out of proportion to the situation.
These responses were necessary protections in the past—but today, they leave you feeling drained and disconnected. Therapy helps you signal to your body that the danger has passed, so you can stop surviving and start living.
Common Signs of Unresolved Trauma
Physical Symptoms
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Chronic Exhaustion: Feeling drained even after a full night’s sleep.
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Unexplained Pain: Frequent headaches, stomach issues, or muscle tension (“armoring”).
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Hypersensitivity: Being easily startled by loud noises or sudden movements.
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Physical Numbness: Feeling disconnected from your body or physical sensations.
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Autoimmune Flare-ups: Frequent illness due to a nervous system stuck on “high alert.”
Emotional Symptoms
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Emotional Volatility: Going from calm to angry or tearful in seconds (0 to 100).
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Deep Shame: A persistent feeling that you are “broken,” unlovable, or at fault.
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Difficulty Trusting: Waiting for the “other shoe to drop” in relationships.
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Dissociation: Feeling like you are floating, “zoned out,” or watching life from a distance.
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Loss of Joy: Difficulty feeling excitement or pleasure (anhedonia).
Behavioral Symptoms
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Isolation: Withdrawing from loved ones because socializing feels unsafe or exhausting.
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People-Pleasing: Over-apologizing or fawning to avoid conflict (The “Fawn” Response).
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Self-Sabotage: Unconsciously disrupting success or peace because chaos feels more familiar.
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Rigid Control: Needing everything to be perfect to manage internal anxiety.
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Numbing Behaviors: Using food, substances, or scrolling to shut off your brain.
How Trauma Therapy Restores Balance
- Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) to heal relational wounds. We use the safety of the therapeutic relationship to help rewire your brain for trust, integration, and emotional regulation.
- EMDR Therapy to desensitize painful memories so they no longer trigger an immediate physical fight-or-flight response.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to gently challenge deep-seated beliefs like “I am broken” or “It was my fault,” helping you rewrite your internal narrative.
- Somatic & Mindfulness Techniques to help you feel safe in your body again, moving you out of a constant state of high alert.

PTSD Recovery:
Break the Cycle of Re-Living the Past
PTSD is more than just remembering a bad event—it is re-living it. When you have PTSD, the memory isn’t stored in the past; it lives in your present. A sound, a smell, or a specific location can instantly transport you back to the moment of trauma, triggering the same physical panic you felt then.
We help you break the loop. using targeted therapies like EMDR, we help your brain process the event, file it away as a “past memory,” and allow you to walk through your life without fear of the next trigger.
The Shrinking World: The Hidden Impact of PTSD
One of the most debilitating aspects of PTSD is avoidance. To protect yourself from flashbacks or panic, you may unknowingly start shrinking your world.
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Stop driving or avoid certain routes to bypass reminders.
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Skip social gatherings where you can’t easily locate the exits or control the environment.
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Avoid sleeping to escape nightmares, leading to severe exhaustion.
These behaviors keep you safe in the short term, but they make your life smaller and lonelier. Therapy provides a safe environment to face these fears gently, so you don’t have to live within a perimeter of safety anymore.
Common PTSD Symptoms
Intrusive Symptoms
- Flashbacks: Feeling like the event is happening right now.
- Nightmares: Recurring, vivid dreams related to the trauma.
- Distressing Memories: Unwanted thoughts that pop up when you are trying to relax.
- Physical Reactivity: Heart racing or sweating when reminded of the event.
Avoidance & Numbing
- Avoiding Triggers: Staying away from people, places, or objects that remind you of the trauma.
- Memory Blocks: Inability to recall key parts of the traumatic event.
- Emotional Detachment: Feeling cut off from others or unable to feel love/joy.
- Loss of Interest: Giving up activities that used to matter to you.
Arousal & Reactivity
- Hypervigilance: Constantly checking exits or watching your back (The “Guard Dog” brain).
- Startle Response: Jumping at loud noises or unexpected touch.
- Irritability: Aggressive outbursts or severe impatience.
- Sleep Disturbance: Difficulty falling or staying asleep due to high alertness.
How PTSD Therapy Works
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EMDR Therapy The gold standard for PTSD. It helps desensitize traumatic memories, moving them from “active threat” to “past history.”
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Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB): helps repair the nervous system’s ability to feel safe in the presence of others, reducing the need for hypervigilance.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Helps you identify and reframe “stuck points” (beliefs like “The world is entirely dangerous”) that keep the PTSD cycle going.
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Grounding Techniques: Practical tools to pull you out of a flashback and anchor you firmly in the present moment.

Moral Injury Recovery:
Repairing the Wounds of the Soul
Moral Injury is different from PTSD. It isn’t about fear—it is about shame, guilt, and betrayal. It occurs when you have done, witnessed, or failed to prevent something that violates your deeply held moral beliefs.
This profound spiritual wound can leave you feeling “soul-crushed” or unable to forgive yourself. We provide a non-judgmental space to explore these complex feelings, helping you move from self-condemnation to understanding, repair, and a renewed sense of self-worth.
The Silence of Shame: The Hidden Impact of Moral Injury
Unlike PTSD, which often shows up in physical reactions, the hidden impact of Moral Injury is profound isolation.
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Believe you are “unforgivable” and therefore unworthy of love or connection.
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Cut ties with faith or community groups that once provided meaning.
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Self-sabotage relationships because you feel you don’t deserve happiness.
This internal exile keeps you locked in a prison of your own making. Therapy offers a key—a compassionate witness who can help you vocalize the unspeakable and begin the journey of self-forgiveness.
Common Signs of Moral Injury
Emotional Symptoms
Profound Shame & Guilt: An unshakable feeling that you are a “bad person” (not just that you did a bad thing).
Spiritual Crisis: A loss of faith, anger at God, or a feeling of being abandoned by your moral universe.
Self-Condemnation: Inability to forgive yourself, leading to a persistent inner critic.
Loss of Trust: Deep cynicism about authority figures, institutions, or humanity in general.
Behavioral Symptoms
Social Withdrawal: Isolating yourself to avoid being “found out” or judged by others.
Self-Destructive Behavior: Substance abuse, risky behavior, or neglecting your health as a form of self-punishment.
Sabotaging Relationships: Pushing loved ones away because you feel undeserving of their care.
Avoidance of Intimacy: A fear of letting anyone get too close and see the “real” you.
Cognitive Symptoms
Negative Self-Image: Believing that your character is fundamentally flawed.
Preoccupation with the Event: Constantly replaying the situation, trying to find a different outcome.
Loss of Meaning: Feeling that life has no purpose or that the world is inherently unjust.
How Moral Injury Therapy Helps
Compassionate Witnessing: Providing a safe, non-judgmental space where your story can be heard without shame.
Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB): Using the therapeutic relationship to rebuild your capacity for connection and trust.
Narrative Therapy: Helping you “re-story” your experience, moving from a narrative of pure failure to one that includes context, intent, and the possibility of redemption.
Forgiveness Work: Guided processes to help you understand, process, and eventually extend forgiveness—both to others and, crucially, to yourself.

Grief Counseling:
Honoring Your Loss, Reclaiming Your Life
Grief is not a problem to be fixed, but a journey to be witnessed. Whether you have lost a loved one, a relationship, a dream, or a sense of identity, the pain can feel disorienting and isolating. Society often tells us to “move on,” but true healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding a way to carry your loss with you as you move forward.
We provide a patient, compassionate space where you don’t have to “get over it.” Instead, we help you navigate the waves of emotion and find new meaning in a life that has changed.
The Pressure to "Move On": The Hidden Impact of Grief
One of the hardest parts of grief is the timeline expectation. Friends and family may support you for a few weeks, but eventually, the check-ins stop, and you are expected to be “back to normal.” You may:
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Hide your sadness to avoid making others uncomfortable.
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Isolate yourself because you feel like a burden or a “downer.”
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Feel guilty for moments of joy, or conversely, feel guilty for not “recovering” faster.
This pressure creates “Disenfranchised Grief”—where you feel your pain is no longer valid. Therapy breaks this isolation, offering you a space where your grief is allowed to exist as long as it needs to.
Common Signs of Grief
Physical Symptoms ("Grief Body")
Deep Fatigue: Feeling physically heavy or exhausted, even after rest.
Tightness in the Chest: The physical sensation of a “broken heart” or difficulty breathing.
Digestive Issues: Loss of appetite or nausea (“knot in the stomach”).
Sleep Disruption: Insomnia, waking early, or needing to sleep excessively to escape the pain.
Emotional Symptoms
Waves of Emotion: Sudden bursts of crying or sadness that come out of nowhere (The “Grief Wave”).
Anger & Irritability: Frustration at the world, the person who left, or even God.
Numbness: Feeling “hollowed out” or unable to feel anything at all.
Anxiety: Fear of losing others or a sense of vulnerability in the world.
Cognitive Symptoms ("Grief Brain")
Brain Fog: Difficulty focusing, remembering details, or making simple decisions.
Preoccupation: Constantly thinking about the loss or the person you lost.
Identity Crisis: Questioning “Who am I now?” without this person, job, or role.
How Grief Therapy Helps
Continuing Bonds: We move away from “letting go” and instead help you find healthy ways to maintain a connection to who or what you lost, while still engaging in your present life.
Traumatic Grief Support (EMDR): If the loss was sudden or traumatic, we use EMDR to process the shock so you can begin to grieve naturally without the interference of trauma.
Narrative Therapy: Helping you tell the story of your loss and the story of your life after the loss, integrating the two into a meaningful whole.
Supportive Presence: Sometimes, the most powerful tool is simply having someone sit with you in the dark, so you don’t have to be there alone.

