Codependency Counseling in Arvada
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What Is Codependency? 💬
Codependency is a relational pattern in which individuals lose themselves in the needs, moods, or expectations of others—often to feel secure, loved, or worthy. It involves an excessive reliance on approval, avoidance of conflict, and self-neglect.
These patterns aren’t limited by gender. Both men and women experience codependency, although how it shows up may look different due to cultural, social, and emotional conditioning.
How Codependency Shows Up Differently by Gender ⚖️
In Women 👩🦰
Cultural expectations often encourage women to be nurturing, self-sacrificing, and accommodating. This can lead to:
🔸 Chronic people-pleasing
🔸 Difficulty setting boundaries
🔸 Feeling guilty for prioritizing their own needs
🔸 Staying in emotionally unhealthy relationships to avoid being “selfish”
In Men 👨
Men are often taught to suppress emotion, be self-reliant, and act as protectors or fixers. Codependency in men may look like:
🔹 Needing to feel needed or in control to feel valued.
🔹 Fixing others’ problems while neglecting their own needs
🔹 Avoiding vulnerability or emotional expression
🔹 Staying in dysfunctional roles out of duty or guilt
Despite gender differences, the pain of disconnection from the self is the same.
Common Codependent Patterns 🔍
Emotional and Thought Patterns 🧠
➡️ “I feel unworthy unless I’m helping.”
➡️ “If I speak up, I’ll be abandoned.”
➡️ “I can’t relax unless everyone else is okay.”
➡️ “Their happiness is my responsibility.”
Behavioral Signs 🪞
➡️ Difficulty saying “no”
➡️ Avoiding conflict at all costs
➡️ Over-functioning in relationships
➡️ Neglecting self-care
➡️ Becoming emotionally fused with others’ moods
Breaking Down Codependency – Internal vs. External 🔄
Internal Experience
❝I must keep the peace or I’m unsafe.❞
❝If I don’t help, I’ll be abandoned or useless.❞
❝I’m responsible for their happiness.❞
❝I’m only valuable when I’m giving.❞
Outward Behavior
➤ A voids confrontation, suppresses emotions
➤ Constant rescuing or fixing others
➤ Puts others’ needs ahead of own health and goals
➤ Overextends time, energy, or moneyYour content goes here.
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Recommended Reading
Boundaries
“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where i end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the one who must live with their consequences. And you are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be happy with. We must own our own thoughts and clarify distorted thinking.”
― Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Codependent No More
“We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected. Feel any feelings that go with rejection; talk about your thoughts; but don’t forfeit your self-esteem to another’s disapproval or rejection of who you are or what you have done. Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. If you have done something inappropriate or you need to solve a problem or change a behavior, then take appropriate steps to take care of yourself. But don’t reject yourself, and don’t give so much power to other people’s rejection of you. It isn’t necessary”
― Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself